A trifecta of meditation, promenade walk, and catching up at Norfolk Deli with a flat white and almond milk.
To boundaries, the art of staying open while saying ‘no’ and walking away. To free up space and time. Boundaries keep the good in. Shuts out the bad. Too big and tall, nothing good can get in. Too small and porous, everything leaks.
This is what happens with leaky gut. The thin lining of our intestines leaking food. Sounds disgusting, doesn’t it? It is, sort of.
This pendulum, that goes from the extreme left, right, and settling down in the middle.
A new manager I hired into my team, I have been too soft. Lesson learned? Trust is earned with daily deposits. Individual contributor, he has been excelling at work, probably the best in his team. Except, he has no line management or portfolio ownership experience. Therefore, lacking core muscles of getting things done and holding people accountable. Basic project management skills is missing, in how to divvy up the work, set milestones, deliverables and link it to an individual and team.
The importance of consequence management. Creating friction to let the team know that if they don’t do what is required, they will be found out. Not a threat. It’s like getting caught for speeding with CCTV. Sometimes, you get away with it. Other times, you may be caught by a police or good samaritan.
How do I set the right controls, check ins and boundaries to incentivize people to show up on time and in full? With accountability and incentiive to do what is right? WIth respect and humility? Maybe, lead by example, and showcase the value of hard work.
To boundaries, I say thanks for reminding me keep the appropriate distance. If it’s raining, the distance between the cars are wider. To compensate for longer braking and higher probability of accidents with skids, people not knowing how to drive in the rain, in cars that are not roadworthy.
I am the car, trying to keep a safe distance in between traffic. Letting some people in, and letting people out of my car.